What is ‘Going Solo’ all about?

Hi I’m Maddi - and I’m here to help you celebrate all aspects of solo living.

Whether that’s just for now or long term, I want to help show single women that they can live the life they dream of.

I’m not going to lie, it has taken me a long time (a.k.a. years of therapy) to understand that just because I don’t want to be in a relationship (and that’s just my story, yours will look different!) my life is still full of meaning. I don’t need my ‘other half,’ and I certainly don’t need ‘the one.’ I am already whole.

I created ‘Going Solo’ to explore all nuances of single life. Like anything, it has it’s ups and downs and whilst I love my life, there are aspects of singledom that I find difficult, as I’m sure others do. Whether you’re choosing to be single for now, or you know deep down relationships just aren’t your jam, this is your safe space on the internet to lean into single life.

Here you’ll find:

  • Mindset shifts to explore going solo with confidence. From embracing your independence, creating your own traditions, learning to live alone and letting go of societal expectations

  • Solo living tips on travel, managing your finances, self care and wellness and building a life you love

  • Hopefully, a supportive community of likeminded people who value independence and connection

Think of this space as a place to embrace independence - a visual voice note reminding you of all the reasons you can thrive by yourself.

Around here, we don’t just accept our solo lives, we own them and I’m on a mission to show you that you can live a joyous, fulfilling life whether you are single by choice or circumstance.

You are worthy. You are important.

And most importantly, you are allowed to take up space - especially if you show up alone.

My journey to going solo

Everybody’s story is different, and you know your own truth. I just wanted to share my journey to figuring out that I wanted to live my life solo.

Growing up, I just assumed that I would get married. I’d even planned out with my friends at school that I would have my first child at 24 (this is hilarious to me now because I didn’t even know who I was at 24, let alone have been capable of raising a child).

I dated a few people, kissed a few frogs but whenever it veered towards becoming more than that I would leg it as far away as possible.

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That sounds like commitment issues, I hear you cry.

Yep, I cried that too.

However, commitment wasn’t the issue. In fact I’m very committed. I have a career in healthcare that I’ve remained committed to. I have very successful friendships which have lasted many years, all of which I am committed to growing and strengthening.

It was the idea of being in a relationship that sent me running like a track star. As I learnt more about myself, I discovered that the more I thought about being in a relationship, the less I wanted one until I got to the point where I decided to fully embrace that. I’m not wired for romantic relationships and that’s okay.

In fact, that’s great!

Now don’t get me wrong. I love love. I love seeing my friends fall in love and be in strong, stable partnerships. I enjoy romcoms and hearing about dating trials and tribulations.

I still go gooey over Mcdreamy in Greys Anatomy.

I live on my own, make my own money, own my own flat, have incredible friends and family. Why should I feel incomplete just because I am not in a relationship. Having a partner just isn’t my story…

and I love that for me!

Day 1 in my new flat and my first time living alone